So, how was your Thanksgiving?

I found myself feeling pulled in 20 directions and then my husband decided that he would help.

Oh Boy; if I wasn’t stressed before I sure was now!

So, I kicked him out; nicely of course.

My husband is intense 24/7 even when he sleeps he’s intense.

He even breathes with intensity.

Before, I would just swallow my nervousness and anger.

Then, I would explode; GET OUT!!

This time; I used these 4 magic phrases and it worked!

When he stood over my shoulder at the stove making sure that I didn’t burn the cream spinach I said:

“That’s interesting that you are so concerned about the spinach; why is that?” I promise it won’t burn.

Craig: “OK.” and he walked away

Last year, I would have said: YOU ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY!

The previous 20 years I thought that I was just too stupid and he had to supervise. (Gosh don’t know why I weighed 200 pounds with that kind of head trash!)

When he told me that I was drying out the turkey, I said:

“That’s interesting, why do you think that.”

Oh yes, he finally got the hint and the dinner was fabulous.

By using these 4 magic phrases you give yourself the greatest self-care gift:   taking responsibility. You are in the drivers’ seat choosing how to respond.

Plus

Your throat won’t hurt from all the yelling!